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A frequent expert on national radio, television, and in national print media, she is also author of several popular books including Natural Highs, 8 Weeks to Vibrant Health, and Supplement Your Prescription. Introduction ix Chapter 1. Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice—Why? Venus and Mars Under Stress 15 3.
Venus and Mars Out of Orbit 29 4. Venus and Mars, Changing Places?!? Venus and Mars Collide Into Love 9. Venus and Mars at Rest Grounded to the Earth C. He comes home after an exhausting day, looking forward to putting his feet up and relaxing in his favorite chair. The last thing he wants is to deal with another problem.
He wants a chance to cool down and forget his responsibilities. Is he ignoring me? Does he even see me here? In her mind, the concerns escalate. Is he taking me for granted? What happened to the man I married? Does he even love me anymore? She wonders: Why is he so cold? Mars on Ice. He wonders: Why is she so angry with me? Venus on Fire. Sound familiar? Well, if men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then, at the end of the day or after a few years of marriage, quite often Venus is on Fire and Mars is on Ice.
The Hormones of Fire and Ice These opposing attributes—fire in women and ice in men— really do exist.
The biochemical makeup of the two genders is not the same. We have known this, in broad terms, for a long time.
Recent research has revealed that women release a hormone called oxytocin to cope with stress while men release testosterone for the same purpose. Oxytocin is released in safe, cooperative, caring, supportive and nurturing situations.
Testosterone is something of an emergency hormone, released in situations that require urgency, sacrifice for a noble cause and problem solving. This is a ground-breaking discovery for the newly emerging sci- ence of gender intelligence. It deserves our attention because it points both men and women in the right direction when seeking to handle the ups and downs of daily life.
More importantly, it helps each side make sense of the opposite sex and the very different ways in which the other gender copes. To cope effectively with stress, a man is drawn to situations that either release testosterone or rebuild testosterone. Problem solving releases testosterone, which is why men enjoy fixing the toaster or changing the oil.
As he acts, a man feels competent and powerful. But soon thereafter he needs to kick back and recover, because resting or.
When oxytocin levels go up in a woman, her stress levels come down. This is not true for a man. It with stress. Practically speak- ing, too much oxytocin can make a man sleepy and knock his testosterone level down significantly.
To cope effectively with stress, women are drawn to situations that stimulate the release of oxytocin and facilitate the rebuilding of oxytocin. By sharing herself in nurturing situations, oxytocin is released and her stress levels decline.
By receiving nurturing sup- port, she is able to rebuild her oxytocin levels. This cycle of nur- turing, then receiving nurturing support, then nurturing again, governs the life of a woman who is successful in coping with her stress.
But men and women differ The cycle of giving greatly on how much of each hormone and receiving they need and how effectively they make nurturing support it and store it. Think of the poor guy who goes to the mall with his wife. Your man is in testosterone deficit, big-time! He needs far more of it than you. Availing themselves of opportu- from stress. With a new grasp on the hormonal dynamics in her life, any woman should be able to shift from always giving to taking the time she needs to receive support.
Balancing Work and Home Life Back when men brought home the bacon and women stayed home to raise the children, things were more clear-cut, hormonally speaking. In the so-called ideal household of an earlier era, men knew they could relax when they came home in the evening. In this traditional arrangement, each gender had a better chance of having their hormonal storehouses replenished than we see today. Today, balancing work and home life, business and personal life, has become a great challenge for most women and the men who love them.
Each day a woman returns from one full-time job outside the home to another—inside the home. Whether she loves the job or simply needs it for economic reasons, working leaves her little or no time to relax and cope with stress. Making money and con- has increased. And a little help with the dishes.
For too many women I know today, life is out of balance and relentlessly stressful. Objective research backs up my anecdotal evidence.
When she returns home, those stress levels increase even more. Meanwhile, a man who comes home to sit in his easy chair and watch the news sees his cortisol levels, which are already lower than hers, drop yet lower.
But her world is off its axis. And that fact has led to what is perhaps the most significant difference between men of today, as opposed to men of,. It used to be that women were measurably happier than men, but not anymore. When women suffer we all suffer. When stress levels are moderate and well managed, both men and women Women now score can be at their best. They are warm and lower than men on friendly as well as giving and apprecia- tests that measure tive to each other. But as stress increases, happiness.
Women feel overwhelmed with too much to do, while men either retreat to preoccupations with work or fall asleep on the couch. When home life no longer offers remedies for the stress of work, women tend to heat up while men become cold as ice. Learning about testosterone and oxytocin and the differing effects they have on the two genders offers great hope for finding peace and mutual satisfaction in our relationships. Incorporating our new knowledge is crucial: Unless those of us in relationships understand our differing needs when we react to the stressors in our lives, we will experience ever-increasing tension and disillusionment.
Better we should gain a clear and specific understanding of the roles of testosterone and oxytocin and how they can help us make sense of one another. A man seeks out the couch or an easy chair after a stressful day because relaxing his muscles and putting the prob- lems and responsibilities of the day out of his mind rebuilds his testosterone levels.
Even worse, why does she want me to talk about my day? A woman seeks out nurturing activities as a way of rebuilding her oxytocin levels and reducing her stress. When a man listens supportively as she de- scribes her day, this also helps rebuild her oxytocin levels.
Why is he more interested in TV than in me? And furthermore, why does he insist on having a big-screen TV? Studies have shown that when a man is relaxing and watching TV his testosterone levels are rebuilding and increasing, reducing his stress.
Little TV, little testosterone. Big TV—well, you get the picture! Under moderate stress, women have a much bigger reaction in the emotional part of the brain. Talking about her feelings helps her to feel seen, heard, under- stood and loved. This, in turn, rebuilds and releases her anti- stress hormone, oxytocin. This, in turn, lowers his stress and gives him the extra energy boost or motivation to get the job done.
I think she worries too much.
While a man carries a wallet and a comb, just the essentials, a woman carries a big purse with everything she or anyone else family, friends, co-workers could possibly need. On Venus, planning ahead is an act of caring and consideration that releases oxytocin to help her cope with stress. In the beginning he would plan dates, give me compliments and show me lots of affection.
Now he only touches me when he wants sex. In the beginning of your relationship, he was solv- A ing a problem: Women love sex just as much as men do. If her oxytocin level is low, her sex drive is diminished and her stress level is high. If her oxytocin level is high, perhaps due to the stress-reducing effect of your care and attention, her sexual re- sponse may be very strong indeed. Kind words and considerate actions count for a lot! Here we can see that, as the result of our new understanding of the stress-reducing effects of hormones, all the old questions women and men have asked about one another for generations now have new answers.
Answers that explain rather than excuse. Answers that help us make sense of a situation instead of throwing up our hands in desperation. Our opportunity to gain greater mutual understanding in our relationship is unprecedented.
Think of it: Instead of feeling confused or powerless, we can begin to formulate a whole new way to interact and relate. This is exciting stuff! Now that we know why Venus is on fire and Mars is on ice, we can focus our efforts on ensuring that our partner, whom we love above all else, gets what he or she needs—while never sacrificing what we ourselves want and need.
Finding this balance begins with making sense of one another in a new and positive way.
He becomes more passive. New Releases. Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Notify me. John Gray advises men and women of the best ways to harness the connection between stress, blood sugar, body fat, and behavior to create lifelong passion and better health.
Gray reveals that the differences between the sexes, and how they relate to one another, are biochemically based and can be explained--and managed--by our hormones.
Gray provides small steps for super-stimulating the hormones necessary to nourish a vibrant life. He explores how communication, romance, "a superfood diet, super exercise, and super sleep," can be incorporated into any lifestyle, and result in a whole new way of life. Rating details. Book ratings by Goodreads. Goodreads is the world's largest site for readers with over 50 million reviews. We're featuring millions of their reader ratings on our book pages to help you find your new favourite book.